Regarding that goddamn ‘Wil Wheaton whitesplains offensive humor’ post.
Everyone who has ever said, “Well, I would’ve listened if you’d been nicer!” in any kind of argument over their shitty behavior:
Please note that the person who sent that ask was incredibly polite and kind, despite the fact that they were offended by something that Wil Wheaton posted. They had every right to be angry and still chose to be polite when explaining to Wheaton that something he had reblogged was offensive for this set of reasons, and that was it.
They did not ask him to delete the post, they did not ask him to make a PSA about offensive humor, they didn’t even ask him to apologize for reblogging the post; they simply pointed out that the post was offensive due to nature of racist media presentation on one aspect of black culture and society’s shitty racist response to it.
And Wil Wheaton published that ask to publicly scold this fan for pointing out that something he reblogged (and tacitly endorsed) was problematic because it was another instance where white people were being racist and dismissive toward black people. Despite the fact that this fan was not calling him a racist or a shitty person for reblogging that post, Wil Wheaton felt the need to publish this ask and publicly yell about how THE INTERNET MAKES EVERYTHING SO SERIOUS, STOP BEING SO SERIOUS ABOUT THINGS THAT MATTER, INTERNET because context doesn’t mean anything if it means he has to stop and think about what he’s endorsed and how it made real people feel.
And then every douchebro fuck that has ever had an axe to grind against marginalized people demanding to be treated with equality got on their high horse and published a flood of virulently racist shit in defense of their nerdy icon because God fucking forbid that you ever dare to insinuate that Wil Wheaton is a human being who occasionally gets shit wrong due to his privilege.
So this is why I won’t be nice and polite when I tell you to fuck off for your shitty, prejudiced behavior. Because it doesn’t matter how nice I am when I tell you that you’re hurting me, you’re still going to keep doing it because you feel that your opinions matter more than my experiences.
Politeness is a shield for the privileged.